Sex Magick For Asexual People
An asexual is a person who does not feel sexual attraction for other people.
Sex magick is the art of using sexual energy to create change. This can mean using orgasm or sexual arousal as gnosis, or just using sexual imagery as symbolism in a ritual.
From first glance, you might think that by definition that an asexual would want nothing to do with sex magick. You’d be wrong, and here’s why.
Asexuality lies on a spectrum. Some asexuals are comfortable with masturbating, some are not. Some will have sex with their partners, but still feel no sexual attraction.
There are different identifiers for how asexuals feel about sex. There’s sex-averse, sex-favorable, sex-indifferent, sex-negative, sex-neutral, sex-positive, and sex-repulsed.
So if you’re an asexual wanting to practice sex magick, this article is for you. If you’re completely sex-repulsed, however, I don’t know if I can help you.
This article does not intend to pressure anyone into doing something they don’t want to do. Instead, it stands to serve as a way to possibly educate asexuals that there might be a way to practice sex magick without feeling completely uncomfortable.
First, let’s roll with the sex-averse people. It sounds like Thelema sex magick might be for you. Rituals like Star Sapphire and the Gnostic Mass are rituals about 69’ing someone and eating each other’s sexual secretions respectively, but sound like they have very little to do with sex. You can just sit back and appreciate the symbolism of joining the feminine and masculine divine.
If you’re sex-indifferent or sex-neutral, you can masturbate and use your orgasm as a method of trancy by which you can achieve gnosis. Of course, you could also use your sex juices in lower magick such as charms or charging private sigils.
The idea behind a lot of these rituals is that sex is a sacrament. Fortunately, it doesn’t always have to include someone else. Many Thelemic rituals only symbolically include sex, while many include explicit acts of them.
Sex is meant to be a holy act. It is a union between masculine and feminine divine. There are many ways to symbolize this union without getting physical sex involved. You don’t have to use another person for this. Both aspects of the divine exist in every person, and you can symbolically join them within yourself through ritual or meditation.
There are all sorts of ways to get in touch with the divine and establish yourself as the crowned and conquering child that the Aeon of Horus has ushered in. There are an abundance of ways sex magick presents itself, but ultimately it is just duality.
I am asexual and teeter between sex-indifferent and sex-averse. Depends on the situation. Personally, I do not mind treating sex with respect as something that symbolizes how the universe works. At least, from a Hermetic standpoint. It’s all sex magick if you think about it, but it isn’t sexual. At least, not most of it.
All I can hope to do is offer some perspective to fellow asexuals who may have been interested in sex magick, but veered away from it because of the name.